Dear Mr. X,
You're experiencing the height of your sexual life
right now, and obviously, such pleasures are hard to
give up. But once you find someone who's right for you,
you can show her how to please you, if you've been observing
the techniques your current girlfriend uses to send
you into orgasm orbit (phrase courtesy Cosmo).
However, you don't want a relationship right now. You
want to "spread your sperm" around campus. That's good
for the ego, but not certain to be so high in the pleasure
factor - at least in the sense that empty sex can be
kind of, uh, empty. And the thought of another guy getting
the lovin' you've been getting is hard to handle. But
don't think of your chick with another guy. Think of
yourself, free from a girl who you portray as needy,
insecure and superficial.
If you two have bonds other than sex, though, maybe
you can work things out. Differences between people
don't have to stifle a satisfying relationship. But
if her response to your attempts to discuss your problems
is something as silly as "I like you better than you
like me," then it doesn't seem like you're going to
be able to solve things as adults (unless, of course,
you're able to make her realize how childish she's being).
Sometimes, when I think I don't know what I want, I
flip a coin. If, when I look at the result, my stomach
falls with disappointment, I realize that I knew what
I wanted all along. I'm not saying your situation is
something you can solve with a "heads I keep her/tails
I don't" deal. Rather, you probably already know what
you want to do about your situation. It's just a matter
of realizing it to yourself, and ultimately acting upon
that decision.
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